Beyonce’s Best Thing I Never Had. What is it, Exactly?

Okay, this song. It really gets to me that everybody is so comfortable with thinking they know what this song means in all its full glory. Now there’s nothing wrong with thinking you know everything about it, but really, how can you be so comfortable to adopt such a position when you don’t consider every particular detail? Look at the title people. Or is it just me.
So what does this song mean? You take a listen to it and you know it in a heartbeat. Oh, this one; it’s so Beyoncé! Another “Irreplaceable” or “If I were a Boy.” Girl power wohoo! She really knows how to dump a man with class. Oh that douche-bag, hah! It sucks to be him. Even the critics can’t help but jump and splash around in this public pool of myopia. Rolling Stone blindly dives in saying “I do” to the song and its video, sucking up to its matrimonial theme. Not surprisingly “a triumphant Beyoncé singing of no regrets” is what dear Billboard Music sees; Entertainment Weekly and the parade of others gladly follow suit.
Am I missing something, or have I found something?
Tell me then, for the love of music
, when you look at that title, what does that really mean? The “best thing” I never had. The song reinforces the idea, with its whole girl power wisp, that Beyoncé is the best thing he never had. If this is so why is it that he is the “best thing” she never had? If she didn’t have the “best thing” then she would be the loser, right? Why? Well because she didn’t have the best thing. Does this song then have another meaning we are not seeing?
The title is not “The Best Thing you Never Had” it’s the “Best Thing I Never Had.” What kind of meaning is being attributed to the “best thing” here to make Beyoncé seem all triumphant when the title implies otherwise? If I have missed something, and the answer is blatant, then wise friend explain to me the following two lines and how they create meaning in the song by being in the same song. I’m hitting Ctrl + C and Ctrl + V to literally show you that I’m taking it from the Official Lyrics.

And I’ll never be the best thing you never had (line 25)

And I will always be the best thing you never had (line 34)
‘Never be’ and ‘always be,’ opposites no? What the hell is Beyoncé on about? Now I might add that this song was also penned by Babyface. Is he from some higher order of Language? Does that explain his twisting and contorting the power of language to make it beyond my comprehension? Why is it that this “best thing” has no fixed meaning in this song? If the meaning is shifting, then at least allow us to see its evolution. The other lyrics of the song back up the commonly held meaning but these sentences and diction really wreak havoc I tell you.
I think, for the sake of sanity, one meaning could be that the “best thing” is dipped in sarcasm and then dried off with time. My time demanding interpretation tells me that Beyoncé is being sarcastic about him being the best thing. Because at one time, the protagonist of this ballad did believe this guy to be the best thing but now she doesn’t (duh), but since she is being reflective about it she refers to him as the “best thing”, even though she doesn’t mean it. Make sense? Thank you. But I’m sorry; I’m still at a loss for explaining those two very contradictory lines. Trying to hand wrangle them for meaning makes it hurt. Look at them, ouch! ‘Never,’ ‘never,’ ‘always,’ ‘never’ wait, did the first negation make a negation for the second. Two No’s means yes, right? Or no? (BOOM! Brain death*).
Apart from this peculiarity the song itself is an excellent ballad in my opinion. Loving the line, “Thank God I found the good in goodbye.” Don’t know which writer scrawled that one out but it’s almost as hot as Beyoncé. The “ass” joke is also clever. Ass as in turning his back on her; ass as in A-hole; ass as in seeing his naked cheating buttocks; the meanings overflow splendidly. The midtempo pace works well with lyrics that take aim at reflection, recollection and female triumph. “Sucks to be you” is an interesting choice of words. Quite sure Beyoncé’s snappy singing and emphasis of “sucks” really hits home with the female teen generation who get all inspired listening to the ballad; especially after dumping/leaving their boyfriends and the need that follows to feel good about themselves arises like body odor in need of deodorant.
As for the video, pretty much on the dot with the song. The two guys could have looked more distinctive I think; I actually got a bit confused. That Beyoncé directly addresses the camera instead of a third person makes the ballad even more powerful. Also, before I go I must say that her dream Baracci dress looked mighty heavy if you ask me. Must have been a workout running in a field with that thing on. Nevertheless the run needed to be run—after all she was running because she never had the best thing in the end. Ironic? Yes, well, it’s Beyoncé I guess. The woman who screams girls run the world so determinedly in the video and then has all the girls salute to the men in front of them. Whaat? Yes. Adieu.

17 thoughts on “Beyonce’s Best Thing I Never Had. What is it, Exactly?

  1. I'm glad somebody mention this ! I keep thinking there's sumthing wrong with the words…\”And I will always be the best thing you never had\” that should be \”And I will always be the best thing you'd ever had\”this song to me makes her think that she lost the best thing in her life, when he supposed to be the worst thing in her life…really confusing!


  2. A guy introduced this to me which I never knew him at all. Totally stranger, though his last name sounds family, like a distant relative. I just wonder why? Hmm, thanks for the post. I really understand it well. =)


  3. The lyrics are correct. \”The best thing you never had\” means: I am the best thing (when you look back on memories when you are old that you never had me (long term…as a wife). \” You are The best thing I never had\” means: simply that he is the best, as in coveying the top non-pick that I did not want. Read between the lines.


  4. Above I explained line 2 and 12.“I will always be the best thing you never had“1.“You turned out to be the best thing I never had“ 3.“I will never be the best thing you never had“And line 3 means…I will never be your top non-pick…that is my interpretation of the song…it is nice and empowering.


  5. Also…\”what goes around comes back around\” this scenerio use to be the other way around.line 1, 2 , 3 respectivelyHe thought that he was the best thing she would ever haveHe thought that she was not the best thing he would ever haveHe thought that he would never be the best \”top\” choice of the non-picks the scenerio turned around…\”what goes around comes back around\”Now the relationship is past tense so the word is HAD instead of have.


  6. I get an opposite response to the lyrics.It seemed to me that she was using a form of double talk quite literally in more ways than one.let's ponder the lyrics for a moment.She says(in the chorus)\”I wanted you bad, I'm so through with that, cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had\”Okay, Does anybody else get the impression that she is NOT talking about a past lover but in fact the upmost high, bear with me because it is a big deal to say about anyone. But the lyrics dont specifically hint to a past lover;her words speak of someone or something that she almost had or believed in that was proven to her to be false.If you recall that is around the time that she started to change into this sasha fierce character. Other references to something more than a past lover-\” thank god you blew it thank god i dodged a bullet im so over you baby good looking out.\” I believe strongly that someone who holds a high power over her has turned her against GOD, OUR REAL GOD the LORD and SAVIOR. But she was convinced that the real GOD had wronged her somehow. and so she chose to give her life over to satan. It must have been something rather devastating because she did a complete 360 degree turn from this good wholesome GOD-loving person who wouldnt even show the curves of her bare bum, to a person who is almost always scantily clad. Something happened to bey. and it was bad. I believe we think those lyrics convey a message that beyonce still believes in our HEAVENLY FATHER, but I have it on good authority that it is NOT OUR LORD she serves.Trust me, I loved beyonce and refused to see her wrongs until something opened my eyes. I actually heard one of her songs backwards(as well as several photos of her with various baphomet accessories and clothing) Those songs speak of their(hollywood's) true agenda and what lengths they go through to brainwash us all…


  7. I always thought it was called the \”Best Thing i Never Had\” because out of all the things she never had it was the best thing that she had given up, as in this \”thing\” was not needed at all. I hope I'm not the only one who see's it like this.


  8. There is nothing complicated except guys in the video they look alike. I think words make sense the song is about her ex-boyfriend that she never had sexual relationship and he left her and she moved on and got married to Jay z . And also she thinks she is also the best thing he never had …


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s